First thing to know about any anal play, strapped-on or otherwise, is patience, patience, lube, patience, more lube and even more patience.

Remember that our eyes are bigger than our orifices, so start small and work your way up; a good anal session will generate  a fun pile of mementos scattered nearby when you're done. My favorite anal toy  of all time is my finger... especially with a latex glove on it, poof! no finger nails! and easy clean up! Just reverse out the glove and your hands are clean and ready to go on to the next thing. Get started by having your partner use lube and massage the opening of the butt... don't even worry about going  in the first few times you play there (remember, patience means that you might not cover all these steps in one session... let your body tell you when you are ready  for the nest step)

Once massaging the openings starts to feel good, then she ca n either slip in just the first part of her (lubed!!) finger, or the first bulb off the (lubed!!) Slim Jelly (the first toy I suggest to people that have never played "back there". I like the Slim Jelly because even used full tilt , it's not much longer  than a finger, and bump do good things when worked i  and out. I'm serious about lube with any anal play, the anus isn't naturally lubricating so you have to lube more than you'd think, then lube again.)

After the Slim Jelly is feelin' good you can move the toys in the kit , or other toys  that are on the small side of the scale. I like ones with curves and bumps, all of which are great  for hitting  the elusive prostate, the gem of the human body... more sensory nodes than just about any other place else on the male body...

Now that your butt is happy having things in it... lets attach said 'things' to your partner. My favorite way to do this is with the harness that comes with the Jelly Dong Strap On... It is comfortable, machine- washable and very durable. Its also super-duper adjustable, and once she's figured out how much strap she needs she can trim off the extra and burn the edges so they don't fray.

For an extra bonus prize use Jack Rabbit Harness instantly both with vibrating stimulator and vibrating dildo. I've washed mine a bunch of times and it still looks new. For male we suggest to try the Jelly Power Cock Strap On especially  recommended  for people who lose their erection, it has a hallow base for the penis and vibrating action.

Remember, no one is trying to say  that the Strap On plays isn't just  plain weird. It will feel unnatural for both of you at first, because she's going to have to make opposite movements than she's used to, as will.. just laugh about it and embrace that it's an adventure.

The first man I used a harness with and I were both "virgins" to it and we stumbled though it with a laugh. My biggest problem was that my legs (when kneeling) were shorter than his, so ii couldn't get lined up right. I always ended up with 3 or 4  inches left over between us (I just couldn't figure out how to close up that gap), because I couldn't line things up correctly. That's why  the next toy I reach for is the Slick Willy ; It's smooth and easy entry because  of the small tip, and it's long enough that she can just use the tip of it and have room to spare so she has some working room.

Once you've got the receiver use a something bit wider  and longer, you can move up to my favorite dildo of all time, the Slick Willy. It's got pronounced ridges all the way down one side, which makes it great for anal play because it hits the prostate just like it does the g-spot for us... over  and over with each bump, with each movement , both on the way in, and again on it's way out. Life is good...

Remember everyone's sexual tastes are different, so none of these guidelines are hard and fast. My first harness play partner like me to work up to moving pretty quickly, almost like regular sex... I liked either being doggie style so I could reach around and play with him at the same time, or missionary (a little more awkward, but there's something to be said for being face to face, no?) and then I could reach his goodies even easier.

My second harness partner was experienced with it and taught me some more things... best one: pay attention to whether there is lube further in. I would lube the opening  and once the dildo got past that lube there was none. That's when gloves come in handy... you can do the lubing deed and not have to get up and wash your hand afterwards (just reverse them out and presto Clean hands!)

He also liked much slower movements than #1, barely moving, really, as he was much more sensitive than #1. The moral of the story each couple will find what's right for them, there's no right or wrong here, and don't expect it to work as easily as it does when the role are reversed. Remember that you each  have years of experience moving the opposite way, so it will take some time to get used to moving "backwards"

Pretty smile, really... just remember, patience, lube, more patience, more lube and to laugh a little... it's an awkward act at first, but OH SO worth it when you get the hang of it.

Oh, and don't forget to HAVE FUN!!