Tantric Expert (and newly proclaimed bed wetter) and you thought bed wetting was a bad thing! In the past 6 months, I have taken female ejaculation from mystery to an everyday occurrence, and it has completely changed my sex life for the better. I want to share my story as well as some tips on how have this happen for you.

Why would you want to squirt? The process that causes me to ejaculate  has taken me to whole new levels of ecstasy. I now not only have multiple orgasms, but often, there is no pause between the orgasmic sensations- every stroke takes me deeper and deeper into pleasure.

This discover for me has gone far beyond the physical response and has truly been an opening...I am more in touch with my own body, more present to my partner and more available and alive in every aspect of my life.

This process has been roundabout and silly, sometimes fun, sometimes frustrating-- but well worth the effort. In sharing my journey and giving you  some practical information so you can try this at home, my hope is that you will experience your body and lovemaking in a whole new way, just I have.

My introduction to female ejaculation was several years ago. when a friend told me about a porno she saw which featured this strange gift. She told me of how it looked like the women were peeing, and that was' disgusting and weird'.

This piqued my curiosity, but I had no idea how to go about finding more information. My interest was renewed several years later when I was with my partner for the first time. During sex, I felt like I had to pee, and was doing my best to hold on it- but the motion of his penis caused me  to ejaculate. It was a complete surprise when my partner explained what happened. It was liberating and frustrating because I didn't know  what had (accidentally) gone right.

Where to Begin:

The best way to begin to practice is on your own.

1. Prepare the room so that you are comfortable. For me, that means making it nice with candles and soft music. Put something down where you will be lying  that will catch the liquid. A towel will do.

 2. It is also a great idea to have a mirror handy so you can get a view of your vagina; it is wonderful to have this option so you can see how your body is working and what is going on down there.

Isolate your PC muscles  and G-Spot

1. Your PC (pubococcygeus) muscles are the muscles in your vagina that you would use if you wanted to stop the flow of urine. Getting to know these muscles is essential because they are the muscles that will help you push the ejaculatory fluid out once your G-Spot has filled. You can play with tensing and releasing them (and your safe, since you already peed before you began), try putting your finger in one knuckle at a time and tightening around it. This will give you a feel for how strong, weak, or tense your muscles are and this may help you when you are troubleshooting what is and is not working around your process.

One great way to strengthen your muscles effortlessly is by wearing Mega Egg Blaster or Double Egg Vibrator.

2. Ah, the infamous G-Spot. The G-spot is the accessible surface of the urethral sponge (yes a sponge.. which  is what you can fill up with ejaculatory

2. ejaculatory fluid, then squeeze...). You can find yours by sticking your finger back in your vagina (approx. 1″-2″ inside) and press along the front wall of your vagina (towards your belly button). You will feel a spongy, ridged area approximately .5 inch across…that’s it. So illusive, and yet so easy to find when you know where to look.
   
   Contrary to past beliefs, all women have one and therefore all women have the potential to ejaculate! Once you find it, allow yourself to feel around and notice how pressure on that spot feels. You may get the sensation that you need to urinate…not to worry; this is part of the sensation that will eventually morph into incredible pleasure.
    

3. Once you have discovered how pleasurable it can be to massage your G-spot, (or if inserting fingers into your own vagina isn’t comfortable), you may want to find alternatives to your fingers to make playing with it easier. Any toy that has an upward curve is going to hit it. I’ll list a bunch we carry here at Freddy and Eddy at the end of this article.
    

Filling Up and Letting Go
 

1. Now that you know where your G-spot is, and how to clench the PC muscles that surround it, choose your favorite toy (or use your finger) and begin to put pressure on the spot. Play around to feel what feels best to you…you may notice a sensation like you have to pee. As I mentioned before, this is an integral part of the process, relax and enjoy it.
    
2. If you are playing with a partner, have him move his fingers in a “come-hither” motion. Be sure to communicate how you like it: hard, soft, fast, slow, etc.
    
3. As you play in this way with the G-spot, you may notice that the area will begin to become swollen and heavy…PERFECT! This means that you have activated the response in the body where the ejaculatory fluid is building up inside the urethral sponge (G-spot area), creating the fluid that you will eventually press out.
    
4. Once you feel your G-spot is full, you can begin tightening the PC muscles. Play around, tighten and release... notice how this adds or diminishes the sensations in your vagina. Keep stimulating the spot as you experiment with your muscles. You may also want to massage or vibrate your clitoris, this will intensify the urge to orgasm, which may help you release the fluid.
    
5. When you feel ready, pull out your finger/toy (if you can, while pressing the finger or toy against the front wall of your vagina) and press out your PC muscles at the same time. This motion will allow you to let go! The reason we pull out the finger/toy is because the fluid comes out from the urethra (pee hole) and some women’s holes are obstructed by the toy/finger/penis so they cannot release the ejaculate until they pull it out. Don’t worry, much as men share the same hole for two different fluids, so do we... just because liquid comes out of the urethra doesn’t mean it’s pee.
   
   With a partner you can experiment with him penetrating you and pulling all the way out, putting pressure on the front wall of your vagina as he exits…this is what works best for me.
    
6. If you were in fact able to ejaculate, you may be coming up against some fear that you have just peed. Not to worry! This was a big fear of mine, and I simply surrendered to the idea that I might just pee…so what? I made my partner promise that he would still love me even if I was peeing and not ejaculating, and I got on with it!
   
   The truth is, that in the same way a man can’t pee when he is aroused, it is very unlikely that a woman can pee once her G-spot has been properly stimulated. The other thing to do is smell and touch the ejaculate… and then smell and touch a drop of urine…you will most likely find that they are two very different substances.
    
7. That’s it really. Don’t be discouraged if you have not ejaculated, be gentle, have fun, don’t try too hard!

As I shared before, it was important for me to play alone as well as with my partner. Getting to know what worked by myself was helpful so I could bring ideas to him and know where I was at without having to feel too self-conscious.