Why in the world would we want to use a Sex Toys?

There are many reasons  to try and use sex toys. We use them mainly to add a little "pizzazz" to our ongoing sexual routine, but the are plenty of other reasons, such as increasing the intensity of orgasm, therapy, masturbation, and even for male penetration, which becoming popular among heterosexual  couples.

What, Exactly, constitute a "Sex toy"?

Well, that depends. A sex toy can be anything from a piece of furniture or kitchen utensil to an elaborate machine costing thousands of dollars. Anything you use to enhance  or add something to you sex life qualifies! Sex toys come in literally thousands of shapes, size, colors and materials  for every imaginable purpose. A feather for tickling? A spatula for spanking? A back massager for vibrating your private areas? Certainly! We've seen examples raging from gerbils for Gere to the wild contraption pictured above to a headache massager for your finger that found its way south. Almost everything goes and almost any object can qualify as you next favorite sexual device!

Great, I want to try a sex toy1 How do I introduce sex toys to my partner?

Whoa there, you! Slow down. This is VERY complicated question and requires one basic task before you proceed- COMMUNICATION!!! Though we'd all like to think we know our spouses/partners better than we know ourselves, talking about sex is usually one thing we do NOT know how to and don't DO well. For example; fifteen years ago (when we were having sex three times a day) Eddy and I had never even considered a sex toy and, quite frankly, didn't  even know what they were or how to use them. Sure, we'd seen dildo's and vibrators in a sex shop windows or in magazines, but they were always something we laughed at! Why, we wondered, would anyone need these (mostly) ridiculous objects to have sex?

Then, one X-mas, some friends in our apartment building gave Eddy a Pocket Vagina, which caused everyone to laugh, but resulted in its being shoved into the back corner of one of her drawers, probably to never see it light of day until I finally, through much cajoling, convinced her to give a spin. Why was she so hesitant  to try something so simple? The answer was very deep and complicated and opened up a discussion that touched to the heart of her very sexuality- her inability to "let go" of her conservative upbringing which told her sex should be ONLY with her partner and that her enjoyment should be based on MY enjoyment. It was at thus point that I was startled to find out she had never masturbated-ever.

The point of this long-winded story is that you just don't know how your partner  is going to react when you asked to introduce a foreign object into your most intimate situation. Your partner may  feel threatened  or worse, think he/she's inadequate and not fulfilling your needs. Men seeking anal stimulation run the risk  of being questioned about sexual orientation (which is crazy) Remember, there are a great many folks who get upset at the mere mentioned of Play boy magazine or internet porn, so tread lightly . NEVER just bring a toy home and unveil it the middle of making love. NEVER!!!

Instead, it's best to approach the subject sensitively or humorous, such as "Hey, I saw this funny looking thing on "Sex in the city"  and thought it might be fun... "or" I was reading this woman's magazine  in the waiting room of (dentist, doctor, lawyer, etc.) and it mentioned a product that... "Once the IDEA of getting a sex toy into your relationship is accepted , discuss what type of toy you want and PICK IT OUT TOGETHER.

Yeah! He/She in interested in getting a toy- Which one should I get?

Indeed. Which one to get. As you can see in this website, the choice(s) is not easy. However here are some guidelines to help you filter through the many options.

1. Clearly define what it is you want. Are you trying to generate some extra sparks? Do you wish to try to experience some new sensations? Are you trying to get "over the hump" to experience an orgasm? Figure out exactly why you want to try them and then figure out...

2. Are you looking for a toy for her, for him, or for both of you. Once you figure that out...

3. Do you want one to use the toy together, alone or both? Sanitation issues aside, do you wish to introduce the toy into a partner situation and also to use it solo? If so, you should be conscious of the design  so that using it solo requires as little effort as possible.

4. If for her, do you want a toy that focuses on the clitoris, penetration, g-spot, anal, or some combination of all four? Most toys serve specific purpose and once you know what areas you want to stimulate, your choices will be narrowed and your search is made easier. After you know what you want you need to know...

5. What type of power (if any) are you seeking? Most sex toys manufactured today run on batteries, due to the convenience of using them without the need to be confined to the length of an electrical cord or proximately to an outlet. Technology has evolved to the point of extracting lots of muscle from just a few batteries and most will adequately stimulate whatever area you wish. Electrical powered toys, however, do have advantages as well, such as never having to replace batteries (it's bummer to run out of power in the middle of hot sexual encounter!) more power than even the strongest batteries can generate, and a tendency to last longer over time (no covers to break off, no battery acid to eat through sensitive parts etc.) Once you've solved your power dilemma, decide...

6. What kind of material should I get? Most vibes and dildos for penetration are made from either latex (rubber), silicone, jelly (gel), or glass. In the case of latex, you'll find this material confined ,mostly dildos, though even dildos are now leaning more toward silicone, which has many of the same properties (flexibility, pliability), but is more sanitary due to its non-porous composition. This means you can boil toys made from silicone or use alcohol-based cleaners without worrying about damaging them. Jelly toys are also very popular as they are the most life-like of all sex toys and are known for their great pliability and realistic feeling. Glass are also called Pyrex, has become very popular in the manufacture of sex products due to the many beautiful designs and colors available, while also possessing the ability to be heated or chilled to create different sensations. Glass is also very sanitary and can be run through a dishwasher and completely submerged to kill any bacteria that maybe present after use. The sanitation benefits make glass toys very good for anal penetration as well.

Sheesh, Guys, we did all that and now we want to buy one! Where do we find them and how do we get the best pricing?

Believe it or not, our first choice would be for you to find local sex shop and patronize them in your home town or city, It's important to show support and just as important, that it's OK to go into a well run, classy sex shop. Here in Allied we have several great ones to choose from.

Of course, since you're here, we'd obviously like you to go to our shop, or you can call us.