After being a body worker for the last 12years. I've talked to countless clients who marvel the ability to perform massage. They have built it up into something much more complicated that it really is. I mean it's not rocket science right. Yet it seems so intimidating. Too hard, too soft, too fast, too slow. So many things to go wrong! The truth is-nothing can really go wrong. The ultimate secret to giving a good massage is simple, Relax up, that's it. The best way to give you a good massage is to be calm and relaxed yourself. You need to be able to tune into your partners body. How van you do that if you are nervously wondering what they think of your every move? Sharing massage is an extraordinary way to increase your connection and intimacy through intention. It's an opportunity to focus on your partner exclusively. It also allows them to fully receive. Not that its all about, the other guy, its not. The act of giving  massage is rewarding in and of itself as you allow yourself to sink in  and attune to another being. try to get in touch with your won experience of giving the massage. It should be just as pleasurable for the giver as the receiver.

You  will want to prepare a little for your massage experience. Start with some nice relaxed mood lightning. If your regular light is too bright get creative with some fabric over the lamp or scented candles. When you make your music selection try something without lyrics as words tend to bring you back into your head. Exactly what you are trying to leave behind! You will want o select an oil that is safe for the skin and not sticky. Most made for massage will be fine, and there are lots of fun and titillating sensation enhancing oils to experiment with. My favorite is the tingling one, or be bold! Try different one for every part of the body.

If you don't have the massage table available, the best way for both of you be comfortable is if your partner is lying face down length wise at the foot of the bed. Or, if they are too tall, they should lie along the edge of the bed with their head at the foot. This way you can stand comfortably and reach the major of the body without strain.

You are now ready for sensual massage.

But wait! You forgot to undress. This is very important and can really set   the mood. Use it wisely. Take your time. Ask any good burlesque performer, undressing an art of itself.

Expose yourself to your partner slowly. Let them really look at you. Admire you. Make eye contact. Really let yourself feel your connection. It might make you a little nervous, but hopefully that will only add to the excitement with a little adrenalin rush. After you've stripped down to your beautifully naked self go back to the beginning of the paragraph-lying face down on the bed or massage table.

So now, as the masseur, you've got  this wonderful naked body lying before you. What do you do? Relax. Breath. A nice way to start is to place your hands gently on your partners body using the fullness of your palm to make first contact. Take a moment here. Connect. Breath deeply. Feel your feet on the ground. If you have warmed the oil first you can slowly drip in down their back. Otherwise you will want to warm it on your hands a little first. Slowly start to apply the oil, noticing the way your partner's skin feels under your fingers. The warmth and softness of their body. Mmmmm. This stuff feels goooood!  Think of creating long flowing strokes- a sensual dance you are smoothing your way hand over hand from the nape of the neck all the way down to the small of the back and up over the buttocks slowly making your way back up to the head. Run your fingers through their hair gently massaging the scalp. Now then back again keeping your palms full on the body. Feel your own undulation as you move, imaging you are flowing like water. Loose yourself in the experience. Visualize that you are connecting one part of their body to another. As you move on from the back to the rest of the body. You might start with the sole of the foot fluidly sweeping up the leg and over the buttocks. Always thinking of flowing movement. Keep breathing deeply and notice if you are starting to feel tingling sensations in your own body as you are so decadently pleasuring your partner.

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• So hopefully this has given you same good ideas about where to star, where to end is up to you, but whenever you go be sure to let your imagination lead the way.
• TIPS:
• About Women
• Make sure your pressure is not too strong, you want be tender with her not tender-ize her.
• She might also want to know how delectable she looks while receiving her massage -actually? She'll want to know  you think she looks good while giving too. Really. If she's like most women, she will pretty much want you to think she's not hot all the time, but particularly when she is so revealed. So telling your girl how sexy she looks whether giving or receiving will definitely score some points. This truly an all occasion tip.
• About Men
• Guys like to know how they are doing. Tell them. They like direction.
• They want to know they are making you happy. Help them out. They really can't read your mind. Swear.
• Tell your man how strong his body feels and he smells so good it's turning you on- they want to be desired too!
• If you want a man to relax, whatever you do, don't tell her about anything that might be amiss. He will be incapable of ignoring his desire to fix it. It's genetic. Men are hard wired fixers and problem solving is a definite mood killer.